Dynamics of a Family.

For those of you who might be reading this and don't know me personally, let me introduce myself. I'm 28yrs old and South Florida is where we call home. As far my love life, I have been a hopeless romantic all my life. I've actually made several attempts to adjust my thinking but I realize that even with experience,  there will always be a part of me that longs for that knight and shining armor to come rescue me from this thing cold cold world. I'm currently in a relationship with my daughter's father. We have have been dating on and off for about five years,  sometimes it's hard to keep track. 

We moved in together before I gave birth in hopes of raising our daughter together as a family. We both agreed that putting our daughter first is our most important goal. But somewhere down the line I began to question, do you put your own personal happiness on hold in effort to give your child something so meaningful as a family. Daddy B and I didn't have a traditional family setting, we both grew up in a single parent household. I can't count the numerous amount of times I wished my mother and father were married. As I matured I realized that in love, life, and relationships, some things just don't go as planned.

 Now, I understand that although two people might conceive a child together, it doesn't necessarily mean that they should bounded to one another romantically. I want happiness. And if someday, that doesn't include Daddy B then so be it. Although I preach and continue to be firmly against having children out of wedlock, I'm more of an advocate of happiness. I also highly encourage an individuals to seek happiness. If one day you wake up and you decide your counterpart can no longer put a smile on your face, or make your heart melt, then I guess it's time to reevaluate your relationship. I say all this to say, I want my daughter to know that we as parents both love her. In the case we should ever separate, I want her to know that we tried and we wanted to succeed, if only for her. I would also encourage her to find love before anything. And, if she do decides to have kids, I would love her to be married first. I can only pray that she does right by me and learn from my mistakes.